To start, you have a tendency to slip into the helper role in order to feel needed, so it’s important to step back and look at what’s motivating your desire to help. Pride is the downfall of any personality type that struggles to ask for help and for you, Type 2, it’s a two-fold challenge. While your wonderful, big-hearted instinct may be to help and support everyone, the people deserving of your kindness will show themselves to be true friends. The right people will also notice when you’re in need of support, and they will help to set boundaries as well. When you surround yourself with the right people and set strong boundaries for those who continue to push for too much, you won’t feel as obligated to give and give until you’re burned out. The right people in your life will be grateful for your kindness, but there are definitely those who will happily take advantage and always ask for more. One side effect of being a caring person is that you can sometimes fall into the trap of being a people pleaser. Taking care of each other is a two-way street, and when you start treating your own needs with the same importance as those of friends and family, you’ll be able to open up with a little more ease when it’s time for assistance. If you found out that your friend needed help and was willing to martyr themselves rather than ask, you’d want to step in and make sure they weren’t carrying their burdens alone, right? Your friends feel the same. One of the best ways for Type 2 personalities to move away from the instinct to heal and to sacrifice is to think about themselves the way they would their friends. Treat Yourself as You Would Treat a Friend When you take pride in the things that make you special, whether that's your work ethic, your creativity or your sense of adventure, then stepping outside of the healing role to ask for help or support will be much easier. But your value goes beyond taking care of friends and family. This can be challenging, especially for people who are so naturally oriented to caring for others. When you have a strong sense of self, the affection and support you give to others will be more valuable, because it won’t be equated with your own self-worth. True love and affection is worth its weight in gold, but it’s no substitute for self-love. And maybe learn to put yourself first every once in a while. Here are six ways that Type 2 personalities can ask for help when they need it most. Asking for reciprocity seems like such an important thing…but the words get stuck on your tongue. And you get mighty frustrated when others are not giving as much in return. You often feel like you need to give and give to ‘win’ the affection of the people in your life. Your basic fear is feeling unloved and unlovable, and that puts a huge burden on your shoulders Type 2. What you’re not so great at? Asking for help in return. You can be extremely empathic and are genuinely happy to help. You’re kind, nurturing and loving and, no matter what life might throw at people, you’re there to bake cookies and lend an ear. Enneagram Type 2 personalities are some of the best friends anyone can hope for.
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